So dh is out of town working. He left Naples late last nite to go to Ft. Lauderdale
He left at 5pm and was suppose to arrive approx 7:30 ish.
He arrived.. and so I called around 8:30 No answer...Called again at 9:30
No Answer... called at 10 ...10:20.,..10:30 Then I called his friend in which he was staying with. I asked if Dh was there.. he cracked a joke.. talked to Dh..

Would you have done the same thing.. Knowing the car he was driving is bad.. Bad signal on Alligator Alley (for those who don't know it's a long road across the marsh land .. Protected animals)

Dh thinks it's okay not to call when he arrives or when he's gonna be late.
I just think it's a poliete way of saying .. Hey don't worry.. I'm here.. or I'm going to be late .. don't worry I'm okay.

I totally understand, my Dh is a truck driver and he gets mad sometimes when I ask when to expect him home. I ask because you never know what can happen and if it is time for him to be home and I have not heard from him then I start calling just as you did.

Amber
Wife to Bobby, Mommy to 4 kids~dsd is 14, ds1 is 7, ds2 is 3, dd is 2

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Heck yeah, my DH does the same thing. When I was 6 months' pregnant, he and his cousin went about 40 minutes from the house to go look at tools (some new store had opened and it was their grand opening). They left at 7:30 in the morning and didn't get home until 8:00 that night. We had a huge fight about it. He didn't understand why I was so mad that he hadn't called. His logic was he would have called if something was wrong. Okay, you're both in the hospital unconscious.....would that have been the time you called? Now if he had told me he would be gone all day, then maybe I woudn't have worried so much. Men and women think about things differently, but to me, this is just common sense. Now when he goes away for the weekend hunting, he will call each night. So, he is getting better about it.

Sorry you worried about your DH.

~Tracy~Co-Forum Leader for Squeeze Back

At least I'm not the only one!!! Geez! men!!!!

My husband does this all the time and it drives me crazy!

My husband is the same! Now I've learned that when he is gone and says "I'll call you in the morning" or "I'll call you right back" it really means I might call you in a couple days, if I remember. So I've learned NOT to expect a call back, and if he does call I am surprised. I know sometimes he IS busy, since he is away training, but it only takes a minute to give a quick "Hi, I'm doing good, love you" call or text. So I know what you mean!

And don't get me started on men thinking they can say they'll be back in a hour and don't come home til 12 hours later..........

Mommy to Bethany 9/29/06 and Abigail 6/21/09

I hear that!!! Geez!! Sometimes I am worried, like last nite, and he thinks I'm trying to keep tabs on him... men! When do they realize as a couple/family that other people do worry if they're in the ditch or something.
A simple call would clear so much up!

I bet if I pulled that stunt he would be doing the same thing! Worrying. of course it never happens that way, but one day I would just like to pull a stunt just to show him how it's like to be in my boat.

Men are inconsiderate idiots...its a guy thing..2nd husband..same crap..

My DH has tried to pull that in the past, but that's one pet peeve of mine that he has paid for dearly, more than once. I get a little nutso about that, always jump to worst case scenario in my head and give him heck for making me worry. So I always get a call or an email, every morning when he gets to work (he has a long commute).

My dh tried this once! We had a "come to Jesus" talk! It hasn't happened since. It's rude not to call. It's rude to think us women folk should either not care, or sit at home and worry in silence. OH NO NO!
Sorry, this is one of those big pet peeves of mine.

Sincerely, Michelle
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