Originally Posted by jfred
Yeah, mom sent out some texts about plans while we are up....but didn.t include dad in the texts. Then dad sent texts....didn't include mom in the texts.....sigh. When we were up there last yr, I had to tell each person any plans....cause no one tells the other. Omg. And sis that lives close....she was like, welcome to my world....and thank you for your sanity! She.s about to lose her mind up there. The GOOD THING, while I am there with everyone else, we ALL won't fit in ONE vehicle, so I can drive on my own, and get away from being captive to their crazy! I'd say I would send my kids w the grandparents....but neither drive well, dad's tbi makes it very very stressful for him to drive....and kids just add too much extra.....AND he has recently driven terribly aggressive, nearly causing an accident....and I don't trust him driving my kids. The kids will not be happy about this. I WAS planning on them sleeping over a couple of nights, but not after recent actions. I won't allow that....and their daddy said NO, too. My dad is NOT going to be happy, but when you act like a d*mn fool, then you lose the privileges of free access to my children. I will protect my children, and I will set boundaries. And should he throw a fit, I will turn around and take my children home. I will NOT allow him to verbally abuse me, nor will I allow my children to witness such things. (He tried to start crap w me last spring....and I wouldn't put myself in his path for him to go on a rampage w me. We ALL avoided him till he calmed down. I felt bad for mom, cause she prolly had to listen to him. I'm not 8, or 16, and no longer have to listen till he finally shuts up! I can walk away!)
Sorry that you are having to deal with all that dysfunction. True, you are not 8 or 16 years-old, and you have bigger responsibilities in life, IE: protecting your kids, your family and yourself. Looks like you have a good plan of action put together.
I would be very concerned with your father's aggressive driving.
Just remember, even if you guys go somewhere in a smaller group and the smaller group could fit into a single vehicle, that doesn't mean that you have to travel somewhere in that single vehicle. I wouldn't worry about offending someone, I would look after my family and self, and just go in a separate vehicle.