I have a 4 year old little boy, who used to be very hyper & playful, & here recently within the past 5 months or so has gotten to where he wont play with anything just wants to sit around unless someone is actually playing with him, he will go to the point & just go to his room & sit in the floor & stare at the wall instead of playing. He has a ton of toys, even new ones that he got for Christmas, I thought it may be that there is just too much in his room so started to go through his old things before Christmas to make room for the new & to make it less full & that still doesnt work, he still refuses to play, & if we finially convince him to play by telling him he can get a movie or go bowling or something he gets one type of toy off his shelf & barely touches it. I just need help or advice or why he may be doing this or what should I do. I would love for him to go back to the way he was around 2 & make a huge mess, most moms would hate a child to make a mess, I'm to the point I would LOVE a mess would show me he is actually playing.

Maybe he's just bored? You could take him to a developmental pediatrician. They focus on things like gross motor skills/fine motor skills/speech/etc.

HTH and good luck!

Has there been a change in diet? Peditrician sounds like a good idea

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i know that no mother wants to hear it, but maybe you should take him to the Doctor and ask about Developmental Disorders, it sounds like he is just secluding for no reason at all. is he otherwise happy? maybe he would rather paly outside, when my son was 4 he was always outside, playing with anything, like literally, dirt, lol digging for worms and stuff like that. maybe yall should try going camping or something to get him interested in the outdoors, maybe see what kinds of activities your town has for kids his age, like sports or group meetings for moms to hangout while the kids all play together.

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Personally, I think that this merits a call to the doctor when you have young children regresing on behaviors those are indicators for any sort of condition for example autism. My son who will turn 2 at the end of this month had said some words before he was 1 and about 15 months he stopped talking now he only communicates crying or showing me what he wants but does not speak and the doctor told me not to take it lightly because autism is very dificult to diagnosed since it is so different in every child.

Hopefully this is just a face and he probably needs a certain type of vitamin to give him energy

Has his sleeping habits changed? Bed wetting? How does he interact with other kids? If all is fine in those areas I would say he is controlling you to get his way but if you have seen a change in the other then I would be concerned and delve a little deeper (or really I would dig deeper) by starting with the peditrician and ask for a referal to a family counselor. It still would not hurt to check with his peditrican either way.

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I agree with what everyone else has said to you. It could be something that is bothering him that he is keeping bottled up inside that you have no idea about or it could be something like his eye sight or something he is ashamed to tell you. I would get an experts advice on this.

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The only changes is that he started preschool in sept. The teacher has spoke with me about things at school at the parent teacher conferences & said that he has been better as the year goes on but has trouble staying focused, I have that problem at home he loves to play games or be read to but can't stay focused on one thing for to long. I try to play with him as much as I can but as everyone knows you can only do so much then you have to get other things around the house. He is an only child. He seems pretty happy other wise, I have scheduled a dr. appt for him but I spoke with her before about him being really hyper & aggressive expecially when we are out somewhere & she just said typical boy. But to see another dr. it would be another month before we could get into see anyone. I just hate seeing him like this. I have been around kids all my life & never expected to have this type of problem with my child.

I would take him to the doctor but I would also suggest a psychologist or psychiatrist for testing. My oldest was hyper and he was diagnosed with ADHD. My youngest was fine except she cried and whined all the time and she was diagnosed with depression. It was determined after testing that she had what was called "selective mutisism" she was 4 and didn't even speak to her teachers until almost the end of the school year in March. She would only talk to her very immidiate family. The teacher took her out in the hall and told her..."Cassie, I need you to tell me the answers to these questions or I can't let you got to Kindergarten next year".. She answered the questions but didn't speak to the teacher the rest of the year. Gradually she came out of it. Better to be tested and have nothing wrong than to have something wrong and never know. Good Luck!

Anita...

Autism was my first thought also. Autistic children tend to become agressive/distraught when they are around a lot of stimuli- touch, sound, sight- such as you said he does when you take him out somewhere. The fact that he isolates himself and stares at the wall when you try to play with him is another indicator of this- as if he's removing himself from the stimuli and the interaction of being played with. I would take to a Ped. asap and have him recommend a specialist and I wouldn't take no for an answer or allow him to brush it off as normal behavior. If it is autism, the sooner you start therapy for him, the better. Best of luck to you and hopefully it's no big deal. Hugs.